Post partum depression in men is very real and men who have a history of depression are at an increased risk of developing paternal postpartum depression (PPPD). There is not as much awareness around PPPD, so it often goes undiagnosed or untreated. The Cleveland Clinic (2019) states while postpartum depression is more common in women, new fathers can also experience mood changes after a new baby. PPPD is most common in first time fathers and those whose partners have postpartum depression symptoms themselves. Many men will laugh off the idea of having paternal postpartum depression. Or if they do accept that PPPD is real, they may not accept they are affected by it. Men should be encouraged to accept and learn about PPPD. Parenting is a huge job with long hours, no pay and unfortunately parental support is often lacking (Cleveland Clinic, 2019).
What can cause PPD
The Cleveland Clinic (2019) states postpartum depression is longer lasting than the baby blues and has more serious effects. New fathers can experience a rise in hormone levels after a new baby is born. There are also non-hormonal factors such as:
- One plus one… plus one: Men are used to being the only focus of their partners attention but once a baby comes, moms tend to bond with the baby quicker and dads’ bond with the baby in different ways and it can take a while. This can make dad feel like the third wheel.
- Provider Pressure: a new dad can feel the intensity of the need to provide for his family which can raise stress levels around finances and career.
- Guilt Trips: There’s a cultural expectation that dads should be over the moon. If they are not quite feeling it yet, they might feel guilty on top of everything else.
Signs and Symptoms of PPD
According to The Cleveland Clinic (2019) signs and symptoms of postpartum depression can look very different between men and women, some of the signs to look for in men are:
- Anger, irritability, or aggression
- Loss of interest in work or favourite activities
- Working all the time
- Acting distant or withdrawing from family or friends
- Feeling frustrated, discouraged, or cynical
- Feeling sad hopeless or overwhelmed
Suggestions
Some tips suggested by the Cleveland Clinic (2019) to maintain a positive mood when you are in the thick of new parenthood are:
- focus on self-care such as, eating well, exercise, rest (which we all know good luck, but sneak in a nap when you can),
- avoid reckless behaviours such as gambling, drinking, drug use etc.
- talk about your feelings to your partner, parents, siblings, friends or anyone who will listen without judgement.
It takes time to adjust to a new life and routine and it is completely normal for your emotions to be all over the place for the first little while. But if they are lasting for several weeks then it may be time to seek out professional help from a counsellor or even a psychotherapist. Asking for help does not make you helpless, this just means you are doing your best for you to be able to be the best dad and partner that you can be. (Cleveland Clinic, 2019).
Reference
Yes, Postpartum Depression in Men Is Very Real. (2019, September 2019). Health Essentials . Retrieved June 21, 2023, from https://health.clevelandclinic.org/yes-postpartum-depression-in-men-is-very-real/