Parenting styles may differ based on how we were raised, our experiences and our beliefs, however, “parenting practices around the world share three major goals: ensuring children’s health and safety, preparing children for life as productive adults, and transmitting cultural values. A high-quality parent-child relationship is critical for healthy development” (American Psychological Association, 2023, para. 1).
Four Main Types of Parenting Styles:
Permissive/Uninvolved
Persons that use this parenting style may be attentive and warm to their children, however, being their child’s best friend may take priority over setting rules for their children and being a parent. Research suggests that the children of permissive parents may be highly creative and have good social skills but may also be impulsive and have difficulty self-regulating (Psychology Today, 2023), (Mayo Clinic Press, 2023).
Neglectful
According to Psychology Today (2023), neglectful parents take on a limited role when it comes to parenting. These parents rarely spend time in conversation, play, or other activities, and may have limited house rules. This parenting style may result in children resisting rules outside of the home and struggling with self-control.
Authoritarian
Authoritarian parents may have a high level of control over their children. They may set and adhere to a strict set of rules, and punishment can be punitive and without explanation when these rules are broken. Children of highly authoritarian parents may be well-behaved and follow the rules, however this parenting style may result in children lacking social skills, fearing punishment, and struggling with decision making. Children are also likely to become authoritarian parents themselves (Psychology Today, 2023).
Authoritative
Parents who use this style of parenting may be more “pragmatic and flexible. They set clear boundaries but also encourage and support their children’s independence within those limits and as children get older, their independence increases as well. Children’s opinions are considered, and discipline may be more supportive than punitive. Children of this parenting style tend to be more confident, have good self-control and are more self-reliant” (Psychology Today, 2023).
Most Recommended Parenting Style
The most recommended parenting style is Authoritative parenting. However, “parenting is about supporting children while they make their own mistakes, take on age-appropriate responsibilities, think for themselves and solve their own problems. How you do that is up to you” (Mayo Clinic Press, 2023, para. 28).
References
American Psychological Association (2023). Parenting. Retrieved from: Parenting (apa.org)
Psychology Today (2023). Parenting Styles. Retrieved from: Parenting Styles | Psychology Today
Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research (1998-2023). The 4 types of Parenting Styles: What Style is Right for You. Retrieved from: The 4 types of parenting styles: What style is right for you? – Mayo Clinic Press